The latest Taylor Swift’s song “I knew you were trouble ” forced me into thinking , why we choose things that are bad for us …. Although we may not always realize it, we all make unconscious choices when we are attracted to someone. Relationships are already tricky things , they spin your head , & messes with your brain. There is this habitual behavior, the past memories and lets not forget expectations.So if you are in a damaged relationship and have picked the wrong guy or girl, disaster is almost sure to follow….
These choices are driven by a number of things, both positive and negative , People often have a weakness for the immediate gratification of a pleasant experience, even if it makes for a very poor decision. Gratification over the long term simply doesn’t deliver the same instant, feel-good & u end up with stack of questions …
-Why you’ve stayed in relationships with people you knew won’t bring good to you?
-Why you’ve attracted the kind of person that would bring out the other side of you?
-Why does being with that person is so important for you ?
Well there is this pattern , why people fall for the doomed relationship ….
The first logical reason for it starts with the very basic The origins , where everything begins :THE PAST
When someone has a particularly negative past, especially one from their childhood, they may seek to recreate this scenario so that they can figure out what went wrong with the original relationship and fix it, thus righting two wrongs.& they end up where they began with….
Another reason is what most people ignore even after its too obvious , the need … As human beings we all have needs – physical, emotional and spiritual and our problems come when we expect our partners to fulfill these. We are often attracted to people who have the same needs as us.
It’s funny, the things that haunt us…those little things of whose memories loom so much larger in our minds than they do in others’…regrets…percolating…boiling over…best to let them out, let them know…let it go…
SO rounding up it all comes to emotional programming , our emotional programming is simply a set of decisions and beliefs we made about ourselves, others, and the world in general when we were growing up , Each day that we were alive, we collected experiences, and each experience helped us form decisions about ourselves, and about people, about life.
- Choosing to commit (girldontbestupid.wordpress.com)