Beware : The Tall Poppy Syndrome is infectious

tall poppy syndrome

 

Why  is it that when someone do something different, almost everyone tends to have a say and judge negatively? they always scrutinize and make sure something bad goes with the good deed.

Just to ask…have you done something like that? are you brave and daring enough to do such thing?  if not…..then leave them alone !!

The victims of T.P.S. who have come to my attention lately are Justin Bieber, E.L. James, Danneel Harris to name a few. I probably have a couple of you already rolling your eyes, thinking of how ‘lame’ Nickelback is, or how the ‘Biebs’ sings like a girl.

Well, I’ll tell you this much, he probably sings like a girl a heck of a lot better than we do.

Or perhaps you have been one of the people to have commented on how ‘poorly written’ the popular trilogy 50 Shades of Grey by author E.L. James is? Well, for such a poor writer, she sure has done well for herself. After all, she has beaten out Harry Potter to become the fastest-selling paperback of all time. I don’t see anyone else releasing a top-selling ‘mommy porn’ trilogy which is being credited with igniting the passion back into tons of marriages.

I read the first of the 50 Shades books and I didn’t do back flips over it, I’ve read better books and I’ve read worse, but I do respect the author for what she’s accomplished. I mean, if I get to write and publish a New York Times bestseller, I’ll be one happy girl. Not everyone does that.  And not everyone teaches themselves how to play the trumpet, guitar, and percussions, becoming a teenage sensation before they even hit puberty, as Beiber has done. You don’t need to like’em, but geez, leave them alone! Why can’t we just say “It’s not really my style, but good for them!”

Okay, I’m ranting, I apologize. My point is, it’s one thing to not be a fan of someone’s particular music or writing style, or their acting or vocal talent, but it is quite another to rip them apart at the seams. And it’s not just directed towards famous people, we do it to the general public too, even our own friends and family!

Why do we do that? Why do encourage successful people at first, and then, when they become too successful, we turn on them like a pack of jealous toddlers?!

It seems to be somewhere in the collective thought that we want people to do well, but not too well. After all, if someone does really well, what does that say about those of us who don’t? I have personally experienced this. When I have success, I also hear criticism. There is always one person, or more, who has something negative to say about what I am doing or how I am doing it. I noticed this also with friends who have experienced success. The more success they experience the more criticism they receive. Successful people seem to be the targets of much criticism, down to what they wear and how they tie their shoe lace.

Why are people actually putting in the time and energy to develop websites solely devoted to making fun of these people? First of all, who has that much time on their hands? Second of all, I’m pretty sure the Biebs is too busy buying mansions, participating in charities, and teaching himself how to play new musical instruments to concern himself with any of that sort of stuff.

I’m not a huge Justin Bieber or Danneel Harris fan, but isn’t it a waste of time to sit around making fun of their hairstyles, speculating about their sexuality, or criticizing their musical talent?  After all, they are entitled to whatever hairstyle they want, I don’t care which way they swing, and they DEFINITELY have more musical talent than me.

I am not saying that I have never cracked joked on any celebrity , or that I am saint , but going 360 degree round just to make sure you insult them in the most ridiculous way & making your self happy about that , that’s way too much.   but then I have also had moments where I’ve realized I am sitting on my couch in my pajamas , eating french fries , while they are up there , trying so hard , & making tonnes of money because they followed their dreams!”

And there is something to be said for following your dreams. It takes bravery, persistence, and a lot of hard work to pursue something that you believe in; and getting made fun of by a bunch of goons doesn’t make it any easier. But the ‘Biebs’ and James didn’t give up. Obviously. Doesn’t that deserve kudos?

Seriously they got thumps up from me ….

I ask myself the same question when I am feeling less than happy for someone else’s achievement. It can be human nature to feel a twinge of jealousy when someone is having the success we would like to have in our lives. I like to use this as an opportunity to learn and see if there is anything from their success I can incorporate into my own endeavors.

Thought of the day :

“”Fame has also this great drawback, that if we pursue it we must direct our lives in such a way as to please the fancy of men, avoiding what they dislike and seeking what is pleasing to them.”

~Benedict Spinoza

“Fame is the penalty of success. Jealousy is the penalty of fame.”

~Sivananda

“Envy is when you want what someone else has. Jealousy’s when you also don’t want them to have it.”
― Kirsten HubbardWanderlove

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