Beware : The Tall Poppy Syndrome is infectious

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Why  is it that when someone do something different, almost everyone tends to have a say and judge negatively? they always scrutinize and make sure something bad goes with the good deed.

Just to ask…have you done something like that? are you brave and daring enough to do such thing?  if not…..then leave them alone !!

The victims of T.P.S. who have come to my attention lately are Justin Bieber, E.L. James, Danneel Harris to name a few. I probably have a couple of you already rolling your eyes, thinking of how ‘lame’ Nickelback is, or how the ‘Biebs’ sings like a girl.

Well, I’ll tell you this much, he probably sings like a girl a heck of a lot better than we do.

Or perhaps you have been one of the people to have commented on how ‘poorly written’ the popular trilogy 50 Shades of Grey by author E.L. James is? Well, for such a poor writer, she sure has done well for herself. After all, she has beaten out Harry Potter to become the fastest-selling paperback of all time. I don’t see anyone else releasing a top-selling ‘mommy porn’ trilogy which is being credited with igniting the passion back into tons of marriages.

I read the first of the 50 Shades books and I didn’t do back flips over it, I’ve read better books and I’ve read worse, but I do respect the author for what she’s accomplished. I mean, if I get to write and publish a New York Times bestseller, I’ll be one happy girl. Not everyone does that.  And not everyone teaches themselves how to play the trumpet, guitar, and percussions, becoming a teenage sensation before they even hit puberty, as Beiber has done. You don’t need to like’em, but geez, leave them alone! Why can’t we just say “It’s not really my style, but good for them!”

Okay, I’m ranting, I apologize. My point is, it’s one thing to not be a fan of someone’s particular music or writing style, or their acting or vocal talent, but it is quite another to rip them apart at the seams. And it’s not just directed towards famous people, we do it to the general public too, even our own friends and family!

Why do we do that? Why do encourage successful people at first, and then, when they become too successful, we turn on them like a pack of jealous toddlers?!

It seems to be somewhere in the collective thought that we want people to do well, but not too well. After all, if someone does really well, what does that say about those of us who don’t? I have personally experienced this. When I have success, I also hear criticism. There is always one person, or more, who has something negative to say about what I am doing or how I am doing it. I noticed this also with friends who have experienced success. The more success they experience the more criticism they receive. Successful people seem to be the targets of much criticism, down to what they wear and how they tie their shoe lace.

Why are people actually putting in the time and energy to develop websites solely devoted to making fun of these people? First of all, who has that much time on their hands? Second of all, I’m pretty sure the Biebs is too busy buying mansions, participating in charities, and teaching himself how to play new musical instruments to concern himself with any of that sort of stuff.

I’m not a huge Justin Bieber or Danneel Harris fan, but isn’t it a waste of time to sit around making fun of their hairstyles, speculating about their sexuality, or criticizing their musical talent?  After all, they are entitled to whatever hairstyle they want, I don’t care which way they swing, and they DEFINITELY have more musical talent than me.

I am not saying that I have never cracked joked on any celebrity , or that I am saint , but going 360 degree round just to make sure you insult them in the most ridiculous way & making your self happy about that , that’s way too much.   but then I have also had moments where I’ve realized I am sitting on my couch in my pajamas , eating french fries , while they are up there , trying so hard , & making tonnes of money because they followed their dreams!”

And there is something to be said for following your dreams. It takes bravery, persistence, and a lot of hard work to pursue something that you believe in; and getting made fun of by a bunch of goons doesn’t make it any easier. But the ‘Biebs’ and James didn’t give up. Obviously. Doesn’t that deserve kudos?

Seriously they got thumps up from me ….

I ask myself the same question when I am feeling less than happy for someone else’s achievement. It can be human nature to feel a twinge of jealousy when someone is having the success we would like to have in our lives. I like to use this as an opportunity to learn and see if there is anything from their success I can incorporate into my own endeavors.

Thought of the day :

“”Fame has also this great drawback, that if we pursue it we must direct our lives in such a way as to please the fancy of men, avoiding what they dislike and seeking what is pleasing to them.”

~Benedict Spinoza

“Fame is the penalty of success. Jealousy is the penalty of fame.”

~Sivananda

“Envy is when you want what someone else has. Jealousy’s when you also don’t want them to have it.”
― Kirsten HubbardWanderlove

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Resolved : Check on Diet

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This is one of my favorite food items , &  I just couldn’t resist it , but looking at my current situation I guess its time Istart keep a regular check on my diet , so this year ‘s Resolution is “Keep a Track On quantity of Food” that I consume  & looking at the fact that I am not very good at exercise it seems even more important now .

Positivity will help survive

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It would seem that optimism and positivity are in such short supply these days.  People become angry or discouraged so quickly, frustrated by trivialities and stressed by perceived slights.

I’ve been there.  It’s a dark path, where the only way to assert control is (seemingly) to cut down and destroy.  But there’s truly something to be said for creation, rebuilding, renewal.  That is the only way out of that spiral.

Its like a rabbit hole , once you fall it seems endless , & the ground would hit hard , to find a way back is the tricky part & the key is positivity , that is very much underrated by people .

If you let the small things bring down your world upside down , how are you gonna survive the big challenges if life .

I feel for these people.  It’s not a healthy place to be, but I wish them the best.  Life should never be a series of struggles.  Take joy in the little things and let the rest be.

Don’t let the cloud of negative energy blind you. Hold on to the string of FAITH & HOPE .

” When you have control over your thoughts, you have control over your life. “

Weekly Photo Challenge: Everyday Life -> College days

 

Someone said , college time was my best vacation . & I absolutely agree . Everyday I go to college & learn something.& I am not just referring to lecture notes or practicals I perform , I learn about people , I learn how to tackle difficult situation , everyday there is some new task to accomplish , a new target to be completed , new levels of stress to be experienced , you get to know your own stamina .

The lessons of life can never be learned from any institute of the world , it comes from the small things in everyday life.I’ve learned  to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You’ll never remember class time, but you’ll remember the classes you bunked ,  hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out for shopping with your friends on Friday when you have a project presentation due on Saturday. Spend money you don’t have….

 

As a rule -> MAN is a FOOL !!

As a rule , man is a fool

when he gets hot , he wants it cool

when he gets cool , he wants it hot 

he always wants what is not !!

This is very basic human tendency , to complain about things we don’t have , its natural , no one gets everything in life , & so demand goes on .Well, it is simple to say that we always want more than we have or something else because it is in human nature to do so. In fact one of the greatest philosophers, Schopenhauer, admitted that if we get what we want we get used with it and start wanting something else-thus initiating the process all over again.

Its  all a matter of perception ,Life is in fact very complicated and one can’t resume it to “it is in human nature”. Sometimes we want more because we want to evolve, sometimes because we find ourselves caught in the same “today” and we feel the urge to change “today” in a different kind of “today”. There are times when we want something for the sake of wanting itself, for the sake of the entire process of achieving something.

Famous people want to be normal, normal people want to be famous. 

Tall people want to be short, short people want to be tall.

Brown haired girls want blonde hair, Blonde hair girls want brown hair.
Etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc.

It is something along the lines of that good old adage about “the grass being greener on the other side.” It is the unattainable that seduces us – it provides for us a challenge, a bit of mystery, and injection of interesting in comparison to what we already know and have. The majority of us live what we see as normal. Boring. Monotonous. We pine over the intangible, making ourself sick over material things, places, people that aren’t obtainable. We obsess and dedicate our lives to owning whatever it is we want, and can’t have.”

It is not that complicated to understand the thirst of curiosity , until you don’t have that thing you don’t know what is the feeling , once you get a hold of it , you would know , sometimes you love that thing , & you are satisfied with wanting it & having it at last , it is a privilege thing for you , but sometimes it disappoints you , and you know how much time you wasted wanting it , but that s how life is .

That’s life. Just realize that if you had everything exactly as you wanted it life would be REALLY boring. Temptation is part f life. Learn to deal with it.

Reasons Why You Failed ….

You failed ,not because you don’t deserve it , or you are a loser , you failed because you didnt put up as much efforts as much you were supposed to , or maybe because your methods were wrong . You don’t need to feel upset just because everyone can make it in first shot , & you couldn’t , some are slow learners , some have different mindsets than the normal average people , it doesnt make you loser , it makes you different , & so you would have to take a different method than the rest.

It happened in my life too , something very easy that everyone could do , I couldn’t , I always wanted to drive two-wheeler , but whenever i asked people who already learned it , used to ask me if you don’t know how to ride bicycle , how can you expect to ride a two wheeler , that s the basic thing , but I didn’t believed it , it took time for me to learn to ride , but I kept on trying  , & now I can even drive it with a single hand , yeah I never thought of learning bicycle ,but than I never wanted to in the first place.

It made me realize that , sometimes the normal rules don’t apply to you , just because everyone could learn the two wheeler only after they learned bicycle doesn’t mean it is gonna be the same for you , you need to understand this , if you are failing at something again & again , than there are two reasons ,
-> You are not putting as much efforts & hard work as required.
-> Or you have to change the method , something is wrong & is not fitting.

Get inspired  by  others, but learn to recognize that their methods might not work for you too , make your own methods , ways to tackle things that are difficult to you , even if they seem very easy to others ,

Life is full of screwups. You’re supposed to fail sometimes. It’s a required part of the human existance.” 
― Sarah DessenAlong for the Ride

Einstein  was thrown out of school , we all know that story , but that doesn’t mean he was a loser , he just had a different mindset than others, the thing that he found difficult was a very simple task for all his other classmates ,there is always something special about you that you fail to recognize , look harder & you will know it eventually  ….
Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on and always, always, always believe in yourself. Because if you don’t, then who will? So, keep your head high, keep your chin up and most importantly, keep smiling. Because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about!

You can start by changing your perception , you can boost up your confidence by reading , by doing something new , learning something new , you can keep those things with you that might have inspired you while making efforts for your goal , I always listen to those energy booster songs while doing something that is a bit difficult for me , I keep pictures of  my dear ones in my laptop , those happy memories brings me smile when I am stressed up , I read my favorite novel that always motivates me  The Alchemist , &  Paulo Coleho is my inspiration . You can also look for your role models , who will inspire you , & help you in a way you never  thought  of .

Thought Of the day :

There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.

Paulo CoelhoThe Alchemist

Being Emotionally Damage

Many of us are stuck in an emotional rut of our own making. We live, breathe, and repeat negative thoughts over and over again throughout the day. Because of this, we create  ‘Normalcy Bias

Now what is Normalcy Bias ???
->The normalcy bias refers to an extreme mental state people enter when facing a disaster. It causes people to underestimate both the possibility of a disaster occurring and its possible effects. This often results in situations where people fail to adequately prepare for a disaster, and on a larger scale, the failure of the government to include the populace in its disaster preparations. The assumption that is made in the case of the normalcy bias is that since a disaster never has occurred that it never will occur. It also results in the inability of people to cope with a disaster once it occurs. People with a normalcy bias have difficulties reacting to something they have not experienced before. People also tend to interpret warnings in the most optimistic way possible, seizing on any ambiguities to infer a less serious situation.

It’s the Pollyanna Syndrome.

According to this bias, it is very difficult for us to change and try new things. It is even difficult for us to comprehend a new way of looking at our thoughts and emotions. We tend to think the same negative thoughts over and over, and we tend to stress ourselves out because of it. Our negative thoughts then cause negative emotions, feelings, and we stop living fully present in this moment. Instead, our negative thoughts flutter about constantly, and we live a life that is filled with negativity from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed.
Conclusion Quote ~
“It is natural for man to indulge in the illusions of hope. We are apt to shut our eyes against a painful truth, and listen to the song of that siren till she transforms us into beasts…For my part, whatever anguish of spirit it may cost, I am willing to know the whole truth, to know the worst, and to provide for it.”
Patrick Henry