The reason we chose Fantasy over reality …

fantasy

 

“The best fantasy is written in the language of dreams. It is alive as dreams are alive, more real than real … for a moment at least … that long magic moment before we wake.

Fantasy is silver and scarlet, indigo and azure, obsidian veined with gold and lapis lazuli. Reality is plywood and plastic, done up in mud brown and olive drab. Fantasy tastes of habaneros and honey, cinnamon and cloves, rare red meat and wines as sweet as summer. Reality is beans and tofu, and ashes at the end. Reality is the strip malls of Burbank, the smokestacks of Cleveland, a parking garage in Newark. Fantasy is the towers of Minas Tirith, the ancient stones of Gormenghast, the halls of Camelot. Fantasy flies on the wings of Icarus, reality on Southwest Airlines. Why do our dreams become so much smaller when they finally come true?

We read fantasy to find the colors again, I think. To taste strong spices and hear the songs the sirens sang. There is something old and true in fantasy that speaks to something deep within us, to the child who dreamt that one day he would hunt the forests of the night, and feast beneath the hollow hills, and find a love to last forever somewhere south of Oz and north of Shangri-La.

They can keep their heaven. When I die, I’d sooner go to middle Earth.”
— George R.R. Martin

Beware : The Tall Poppy Syndrome is infectious

tall poppy syndrome

 

Why  is it that when someone do something different, almost everyone tends to have a say and judge negatively? they always scrutinize and make sure something bad goes with the good deed.

Just to ask…have you done something like that? are you brave and daring enough to do such thing?  if not…..then leave them alone !!

The victims of T.P.S. who have come to my attention lately are Justin Bieber, E.L. James, Danneel Harris to name a few. I probably have a couple of you already rolling your eyes, thinking of how ‘lame’ Nickelback is, or how the ‘Biebs’ sings like a girl.

Well, I’ll tell you this much, he probably sings like a girl a heck of a lot better than we do.

Or perhaps you have been one of the people to have commented on how ‘poorly written’ the popular trilogy 50 Shades of Grey by author E.L. James is? Well, for such a poor writer, she sure has done well for herself. After all, she has beaten out Harry Potter to become the fastest-selling paperback of all time. I don’t see anyone else releasing a top-selling ‘mommy porn’ trilogy which is being credited with igniting the passion back into tons of marriages.

I read the first of the 50 Shades books and I didn’t do back flips over it, I’ve read better books and I’ve read worse, but I do respect the author for what she’s accomplished. I mean, if I get to write and publish a New York Times bestseller, I’ll be one happy girl. Not everyone does that.  And not everyone teaches themselves how to play the trumpet, guitar, and percussions, becoming a teenage sensation before they even hit puberty, as Beiber has done. You don’t need to like’em, but geez, leave them alone! Why can’t we just say “It’s not really my style, but good for them!”

Okay, I’m ranting, I apologize. My point is, it’s one thing to not be a fan of someone’s particular music or writing style, or their acting or vocal talent, but it is quite another to rip them apart at the seams. And it’s not just directed towards famous people, we do it to the general public too, even our own friends and family!

Why do we do that? Why do encourage successful people at first, and then, when they become too successful, we turn on them like a pack of jealous toddlers?!

It seems to be somewhere in the collective thought that we want people to do well, but not too well. After all, if someone does really well, what does that say about those of us who don’t? I have personally experienced this. When I have success, I also hear criticism. There is always one person, or more, who has something negative to say about what I am doing or how I am doing it. I noticed this also with friends who have experienced success. The more success they experience the more criticism they receive. Successful people seem to be the targets of much criticism, down to what they wear and how they tie their shoe lace.

Why are people actually putting in the time and energy to develop websites solely devoted to making fun of these people? First of all, who has that much time on their hands? Second of all, I’m pretty sure the Biebs is too busy buying mansions, participating in charities, and teaching himself how to play new musical instruments to concern himself with any of that sort of stuff.

I’m not a huge Justin Bieber or Danneel Harris fan, but isn’t it a waste of time to sit around making fun of their hairstyles, speculating about their sexuality, or criticizing their musical talent?  After all, they are entitled to whatever hairstyle they want, I don’t care which way they swing, and they DEFINITELY have more musical talent than me.

I am not saying that I have never cracked joked on any celebrity , or that I am saint , but going 360 degree round just to make sure you insult them in the most ridiculous way & making your self happy about that , that’s way too much.   but then I have also had moments where I’ve realized I am sitting on my couch in my pajamas , eating french fries , while they are up there , trying so hard , & making tonnes of money because they followed their dreams!”

And there is something to be said for following your dreams. It takes bravery, persistence, and a lot of hard work to pursue something that you believe in; and getting made fun of by a bunch of goons doesn’t make it any easier. But the ‘Biebs’ and James didn’t give up. Obviously. Doesn’t that deserve kudos?

Seriously they got thumps up from me ….

I ask myself the same question when I am feeling less than happy for someone else’s achievement. It can be human nature to feel a twinge of jealousy when someone is having the success we would like to have in our lives. I like to use this as an opportunity to learn and see if there is anything from their success I can incorporate into my own endeavors.

Thought of the day :

“”Fame has also this great drawback, that if we pursue it we must direct our lives in such a way as to please the fancy of men, avoiding what they dislike and seeking what is pleasing to them.”

~Benedict Spinoza

“Fame is the penalty of success. Jealousy is the penalty of fame.”

~Sivananda

“Envy is when you want what someone else has. Jealousy’s when you also don’t want them to have it.”
― Kirsten HubbardWanderlove

Don’t Ask Me …… my graduation plans ~

Graduation plans , funny question

 

Which job are you applying for ? Are you going to do the masters ? Do you really think you are made for this field ? Have you decided which course you are gonna choose ?

Whether its a neighbor, professor, family friend or stranger I’ve just met, the first question that just rolls out is, what exactly I want to do once I finish college. While I am still processing that thought myself, I’m still not certain. I’m not one of the well-prepared students who already have a job lined up with Google , and placements are working out too good for them.

It’s pretty obvious people ask this questions , Its not their fault , But I am the one who suffers , so I have right to say , plz stop bombarding me with those questions , you would see in future whatever ,I would decide , & it won’t affect you , I am the only one whose life ‘s gonna be changed (ofcourse my family is included) , but the rest of the society should just lay back & let me figure out.

Here I am trying to strike a balance between pursuing my interests and ensuring employability  when it comes to career choice. Either extreme can potentially burn out a person both as a student and as a job seeker.But till far it goes , I am way behind.

All I did discover is that there are mainly two types of career categories : (1)those that provide knowledge and skills that prepare one to enter a number of different jobs and (2)those that provide knowledge, skills, and training for entrance into a specific career field.

As I am not sure of specific field , I think the second option rules out for me , so I am left with the first one, So now that again opens up a very general field , to list down to…..I’ll have to be open to various fields anyway as the The New York Times reported that unemployment rate for 20- to 24-year-olds was 13.2 percent in April , so This next year will involve me internally panicking as I struggle to decide where to send my resumes.

I really wish I could get to some definite point soon , or this whole confusing ideas of what my career is gonna be, would suck the life out of me, its pretty exhausting .With all this expected self-inflicted stress, it would be nice to not have any added pressure from outsiders.

This is my time to explore what I wanna pursue in my life , & I would really like to be able to use this last year to decide what exactly that is. So please refrain from asking me what my plans are after graduation — my anxiety level and I would both appreciate it.

Thought of the day :

“The biggest mistake that you can make is to believe that you are working for somebody else. Job security is gone. The driving force of a career must come from the individual. Remember: Jobs are owned by the company, you own your career! ”
~Earl Nightingale

Why we choose trouble …..

i knew you were trouble

 

The latest Taylor Swift’s song “I knew you were trouble ” forced me into thinking , why we  choose things that are bad for us …. Although we may not always realize it, we all make unconscious choices when we are attracted to someone. Relationships are already tricky things , they spin your head , & messes with your brain. There is this  habitual behavior, the past  memories and lets not forget expectations.So if you are in a damaged relationship and have picked the wrong guy or girl, disaster is almost sure to follow….

These choices are driven by a number of things, both positive and negative , People often have a weakness for the immediate gratification of a pleasant experience, even if it makes for a very poor decision. Gratification over the long term simply doesn’t deliver the same instant, feel-good & u end up with stack of questions …

-Why you’ve stayed in relationships with people you knew won’t bring  good  to you?

-Why you’ve attracted the kind of person that would bring out the other side of you?

-Why does being with that person is so important for you ?

Well there is this pattern , why people fall for the doomed relationship ….

we tend to bring trouble for ourselves

The first logical reason for it starts with the very basic The origins , where everything begins :THE PAST

When  someone has a particularly negative past, especially one from their childhood, they may seek to recreate this scenario so that they can figure out what went wrong with the original relationship and fix it, thus righting two wrongs.& they end up where they began with….

Another reason is what most people ignore even after its too obvious , the need … As human beings we all have needs – physical, emotional and spiritual and our problems come when we expect our partners to fulfill these. We are often attracted to people who have the same needs as us.

It’s funny, the things that haunt us…those little things of whose memories loom so much larger in our minds than they do in others’…regrets…percolating…boiling over…best to let them out, let them know…let it go…

SO rounding up it all comes to emotional programming , our emotional programming is simply a set of decisions and beliefs we made about ourselves, others, and the world in general when we were growing up ,  Each day that we were alive, we collected experiences, and each experience helped us form decisions about ourselves, and about people, about life.

The clue to solve this is quite simple, WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND WHY YOU’VE MADE THE LOVE CHOICES YOU HAVE, YOU WILL THEN BE FREE TO MAKE NEW AND BETTER LOVE CHOICES ~

 

 

Sometimes it doesn’t make sense , but that ‘s okay ~

doesn't make sense

You know how sometimes nothing make sense , all this absurd questions poking you , no matter how hard you struggle to find the answers , its like waving your hand in deep water , you try to hold on to anything , but no gain ….

Your brain doesn’t accept things , it keeps on asking you …
You don’t get how someone can erase you from all their memories
How someone can just delete your existence
How someone can just walk past you like stranger
It doesn’t make sense to you how they pretend that everything is same like before
How someone can just lie to your face
Unexpectedly they lose all the feelings for you
How someone can change your mood instantly

& there you lie awake all night staring above , trying to figure out things on your own , finding reasons , convincing your heart to let it go , but does it listens to you . The validation of thoughts that occurs in your head ….You want to go to sleep , but still be able to feel things, like a waking sleep. You want to be relieved of responsibilities but still be aware that You’ve been relieved of them ….

You can worry all you like about how an event will turn out, what the weather will be like, whether your business is good enough; whether YOU are good enough.

Stop.

It is what it is

Some might argue that you can change things; put in more effort, just a little  more ,But looking at life in general; accepting your circumstances, your way of life and your achievements… Accept them for what they are…

Answers are the scarce commodity , you won’t get them instantly , maybe if you try to connect dots gradually it would come to you , give it time , time has power to feed you almost all the answers , thats why scientists say , if they just get a  little bit more time , they would find the solution , same is with answers , yeah but ofcourse , sometimes its too late , but than again if you don’t have control over it , just leave that to time ….

It’s not giving up. It’s not dismissing experience. It’s not assuming you shouldn’t ask .The way I see it? You can only move on when you stop analyzing your life and comparing it to others’. Your life is what it is. No matter how you got to where you are now, it’s happened. It was what it was.

A conflicted heart feeds on doubt and confusion. It will make you question your path, your tactics, your motives. When you stare ahead and darkness is all you see only reason and determination can pull you back from the abyss.

 

You need to Stand UP …..

quotes on oneself

 

You know how people say it doesn’t matter , time will erase it , let it be , leave it ……

NO it Matters , & you say such words because it is difficult to stand up , & so you actually say such words to convince yourself , but you know it deep down , that’s not true .

You need to stand up for things that you believe in , that you  feel are right , you need to take a step. Its difficult , its even insane , there are gonna be million obstacles but you need to do it anyway , you know why , because its worth it. Because the moment you stop fighting for things that you think are right , is the moment you lose yourself , you can’t live with yourself , there will be this hole inside you that will keep on expanding , unless you don’t get up & do something.

It’s hell difficult to stand up against the system , but you have to do it anyway , all the big revolution begin with ONE person standing up to it , there will be times when you will feel to drop it , but those are the Peak times which will pass , the storm will pass & you will get though it. You just need to hold on to hope.

It takes every drop to make a river , so it matters , every drop counts , it might not seem much important that time , but in the end it matters .Its straightaway if you don’t stand up for what you want , it will never happen.

If you whine & don’t do anything to change , that you don’t even have the right to complain , you can’t accept it , than change it , that’s the only solution , it is difficult you say  , no one said it would be easy , important things in life are not available for free , you need to make efforts to gain them.

 

When one has to stand for themselves, its not for glory, for greed, for pride, for justice. One stands for oneself in order to assert that which they are standing for. You stand to gain, or lose, all of whom you  are with this moment. You stand to show that you do not falter,you do not buckle, you do not yield in the face of hardship and defeat, you do not feign in the face of what may be certain destruction, but you stand nonetheless for yourself.

It is for you to stay true to yourself. You stand for all those who would take this from you, you stand for all those whom you’ve loved and lost, you stand for all those who would deny you your right as man or woman, you stand for your survival and your pride, you stand for all that would deny you, and all that would prevent you from being who you set out to be.

You do not stand to gain respect, you do not stand to seek guidance, nor to seek aid. You stand to be you. Don’t you ever let someone take that from you.

Why in the end would it be worth it to exist, if we do not exist within ourselves.

Everyone can make a change in this world , everything starts with one idea , thought by one individual , People need to to share there ideas and not be afraid to stand up for what they believe. You never know, you could start anything you want, and it could be successful, but you will never know if you don’t try. This world is formed by the doers, producers, thinkers, the people not afraid to share their ideas.

Thought of the day :

” Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have.”

~Norman Vincent Peale