Why we choose trouble …..

i knew you were trouble

 

The latest Taylor Swift’s song “I knew you were trouble ” forced me into thinking , why we  choose things that are bad for us …. Although we may not always realize it, we all make unconscious choices when we are attracted to someone. Relationships are already tricky things , they spin your head , & messes with your brain. There is this  habitual behavior, the past  memories and lets not forget expectations.So if you are in a damaged relationship and have picked the wrong guy or girl, disaster is almost sure to follow….

These choices are driven by a number of things, both positive and negative , People often have a weakness for the immediate gratification of a pleasant experience, even if it makes for a very poor decision. Gratification over the long term simply doesn’t deliver the same instant, feel-good & u end up with stack of questions …

-Why you’ve stayed in relationships with people you knew won’t bring  good  to you?

-Why you’ve attracted the kind of person that would bring out the other side of you?

-Why does being with that person is so important for you ?

Well there is this pattern , why people fall for the doomed relationship ….

we tend to bring trouble for ourselves

The first logical reason for it starts with the very basic The origins , where everything begins :THE PAST

When  someone has a particularly negative past, especially one from their childhood, they may seek to recreate this scenario so that they can figure out what went wrong with the original relationship and fix it, thus righting two wrongs.& they end up where they began with….

Another reason is what most people ignore even after its too obvious , the need … As human beings we all have needs – physical, emotional and spiritual and our problems come when we expect our partners to fulfill these. We are often attracted to people who have the same needs as us.

It’s funny, the things that haunt us…those little things of whose memories loom so much larger in our minds than they do in others’…regrets…percolating…boiling over…best to let them out, let them know…let it go…

SO rounding up it all comes to emotional programming , our emotional programming is simply a set of decisions and beliefs we made about ourselves, others, and the world in general when we were growing up ,  Each day that we were alive, we collected experiences, and each experience helped us form decisions about ourselves, and about people, about life.

The clue to solve this is quite simple, WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND WHY YOU’VE MADE THE LOVE CHOICES YOU HAVE, YOU WILL THEN BE FREE TO MAKE NEW AND BETTER LOVE CHOICES ~

 

 

The 8th Deadly Sin ~~~

 

Regret is a strong power in this world. It plagues the mind and ruins even the most perfect day when allowed to run amuck.

People say they regret the things they don’t do more than the things they do. I agree most of the time. In part to feel alive and in part to not regret. Its a good rule of thumb as most of the time the things we fear are irrational and improbable. Knowing that, having been reared on the instructional lyrics of Van Halen and always having made myself do it.

But yet today I made the same mistake as others , so much stuck between cons & pros of doing a thing , I finally didn’t do it , &  I regret it now , that fraction of time when the coin is tossed in the air is the time you know which side you want it to flip , & I know it now , but time has slipped & now I am sitting here regretting it .

Damn it , this feeling is frustrating , but again now I know what I shall be doing if any such situation arises & I would have to make a decision , never let the cons let you deviate from taking the leap of faith , even your heart will play tricky games & would confuse you , that’s where you need to close your eyes , push all the thoughts , take a deep breathe & you would know the right answer …

Take it from me , there are some mistakes in life that will teach you , & some that will change your life forever , the trick is to know the difference between , & that answer can not be given by any book , website , or people , this one can only be made by you & you only ….

 

Thought Of the Day

“Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right regrets.”
― Arthur Miller

 

Journey of Realization …… Dreams

Throughout my life; although it has been very short lived I have learned a little bit about “THE JOURNEY”. I have considerably learned more than your average twenty year old, not because I had to but because I wanted to. I have learned that everyone has a journey and whether they decide to partake in this journey willingly is of their own free will. God will show you things, give you hints only hoping that you might stop and pay attention. The sun doesn’t shine for no reason and the wind doesn’t blow just to keep you cool at night. The pain of everyday living is a mere test of might. Because you are a child of God strength is instilled in you. Because you are a child of God you are born with a purpose.

“THE STRUGGLE!” To struggle is to learn, to know that you have an obstacle to overcome and it is your choice to accept defeat or come out triumphant. Fear is a lack of heart and a gain of absent mindedness. The phrase “Ignorance is Bliss” comes to mind when fear plays its part. If you never know your full potential you can never grow into something greater than yourself so instead you use fear as a scapegoat. Fear controls you, it knows your weaknesses, it knows just what to do in order to break you. A fearless man can’t be broken, he can be tossed to the side, bruised and cracked, but no matter how far you try to break him he will not be broken. When you look at the entertainers, the lawyers, and the doctors who make a decent living and it just seems like they have it all most of them don’t. They sought out to fulfill their personal legend and although they got the money and the career they’ve strived for, most of them only have that. Even if you attain success never forget your journey, it is what humbles you and it was created so that you can share it with others. The way you were inspired to become better than you were is the same way you should seek to inspire others who don’t realize that they are a child of God and they have a purpose.

“LIVING!” Days go by and I observe each and every person that I come in contact with whether it be a co-worker, a friend, a teacher, or a student and I wonder if they’re truly happy. Some would say well why would I be happy I can’t even afford a decent pair of shoes. Money is not the root of all happiness it is actually the opposite. Money creates an outlet to live comfortably and that is of course “The American Dream” but what some fail to realize is happiness is love and love is God. You don’t know happiness until you have experienced love and not just any kind of love but a divine perception of one’s self. Don’t just love what you see externally but look inward and find what makes you special. If no one else in this world loves you there should always be two people that will and that’s YOU and GOD. God will never leave you and just like he has faith in you, you should have the same faith residing in yourself and in him. Once you have learned to truly love you will begin to truly live and accept that through God anything is possible.

“DREAMS VS. REALITY!” Anyone can have a dream but there are those who will live out their dreams and there are those who will only dream them. Insecurity and fear becomes their biggest downfall because they let someone tell them that they couldn’t, the sad part about it is they never truly tried. To fall once is a lesson, to fall twice is a lesson learned, to fall three times is a blessing because after you have fell it is your natural instinct to say “well I’ve tried many times but I quit because I just keep falling.” It is at the height of your failure when along comes your success. It is in human nature to dream, and not all dreams are to be carried out and lived but if you pay attention along your journey God will guide you to the right path. There is no road that is the easiest nor should you want it to be but when you find the reason whyGod blessed you with life it is only then when you truly begin your journey.

Quote Of  The Day :

There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why… I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?
Robert Kennedy

Trapped in Materialistic Life …..

 

Its been so long , since I tried something new , did  something creative , even writing , I am just so trapped in the busy schedule of life , I would like to thank my last semester for keeping me so mentally exhausted , that all I do is come home , watch t.v ,check emails & go to bed .

This whole materialistic approach of the society , irritates me .There is something very  negative that generates from it, like ab evil form , that crawls inside you , & kills the passion slowly , it makes you numb , you even forget how you used to draw beautiful things just out of the blue , it blocks your mind , makes you very dumb as well , you just can’t understand why you are becoming like this, why are you life is seeming like a mechanical procedure , without any soul purpose. Its works like slow poisoning, kills you from within …

I realized it , I had to push it before it consumes me , it happens when we start entering into this adult life , that’s the reason why most of the adults forget about their passion & just live life mechanically , this is something that goes unnoticed , & so no one ever figures it out , as at how this evil spell works on such a large scale.Its sad how plastic & artificial  life has  become. It  gets harder & harder to find something …. Real .

There is this unseen force , an illusion , it works the same way like in casinos , they attract you showing their Grand prizes ,& let you win in the beginning , but that ‘s just the trick to elude you , once you just fall into their  trap, its difficult to walk away from that table , you just sit their losing more & more , in expecting of winning back . But you will never win , unless you get up , break that spell & move out of that casino.

Thats the same thing that happens in real life , this evil force attracts you in various forms , once you are trapped , you just repeating that same process , you get so fixed into that monotonous schedule , you even forget your own passions , the fire inside you quenches down , & you are left with boring meaning less materialistic life  . & the worst part is not yet finished ,  the worst part is you don’t even know what s wrong !!!

But if by any chances you wake up , break that spell , let yourself free , you still have chance to live a life you were suppose to , chase the dream you always had , figure out  the answers you always asked , be actually happy , have that pleasure of satisfaction , find that utter peace of mind that you never had.

 

All it takes is to know it , that s the key , & than everything will come back to you , your passion , your creativity , your smile , that relief , & that sound sleep ….

Thought of the day :

“But I do know we’re deficient in some way. We are too involved in materialistic things, and they don’t satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted.”
― Mitch AlbomTuesdays with Morrie

 

Your True Color …..

 

You mean you are someone by your favourite color?

This may not be totally accurate, but the school of psychoanalysis (well known by Sigmund Freud) do RELATE the individual’s personality to his or her favourite color. Colors reveal one’s likes and dislikes, mood at the moment, and hence a description of the overall psychological state, or in lay man term, the mind.

Carl Jung, a renowned psychiatrist and proponent of art therapy, encouraged his patients to use color because he felt this would help them express some of the deeper parts of their psyche. It is believed that the color choices you make reflect a deeper meaning about your personality traits.

So find out your color …. & see what it tells about you ….

Starting with

@ BLACK 

Black is one of the most beautiful colors and yet it is the absence of color. Black want everything done in detail. If a job needs finishing, these are the people to finish it. These personalities need leaders, though, to tell them what needs to be done. Under guidance, they are able to get to the crux of the matter and solve very large problems. When put in a position to find the mistakes of others, they are right at home.

They like puzzles, and finding others’ mistakes brings out their tenacious spirits. Black will sometimes intentionally find mistakes just so that they can repair them.

Sometimes, when one wears black, they do not want to be touched. Putting a barrier between themselves and others is the purpose of this color.

Black is a relief color for most people, like “Mom’s apple pie”. It makes them feel comfortable and even, in some cases, smaller, allowing them to hide from the world.

Analysts suggest a correlation between acute depression and the choice of black-as this is actually devoid of any color-life.

 

Moving on to the contrary color i.e

@ WHITE 

 

White is the color of purity. The color of new snow or light from above. What we fail to see is that snow and light have impurities in them but seem to be the purest of all sights.

Shyness comes with this color but it is not a true shyness. Waiting patiently for others to notice them before they make their thoughts known, they tend to appear shy but in truth, they are very outspoken.

Virginal attitudes abound with these people. They feel pure no matter what they do. The virtue of purity is attributed to them by others as well, whether they deserve this characteristic or not. White feel they are right in their belief structures although they are not sure they want to discuss those beliefs with others. The fact that they know they are right is enough for them.

The one who desires to be taintless-virtuous prefers this color.

 

Lets see what One of the most controversial color has to say

@ RED

 

Red is the color for passion, energy, and money making. Red with orange overtones are dynamic and love the outdoors and anything to do with people. Red with blue overtones can be energetic people with high emotions.

Reds in their true red mode are sexy and seductive. Men prefer to watch a women wearing red, even though she may not be the most beautiful woman in the room.

It is also the color for someone who wants to have power and be in control. Business people who want to win wear this powerful color to meetings in which they want to stand out. Red makes one feel more energetic or activated. Stop signs are red. Red gets your attention. This energetic personality craves attention and what’s more they get it. Being quick with their emotions, they may erupt into a temperamental volcano right in front of you then simmer down just as quickly.

The Fire and Passion.The blood in your guts announces your excitement to all.

 

Green is something related to many cultures , but there is more to it ….

@ GREEN 

 

Green is the color of healing. Green want to help every one. These people can usually be found in the medical profession or some occupation which helps people. Preferring to watch rather than to become involved in others business, they usually keep their thoughts secret. Others see them as good listeners because of this quality. This characteristic makes them wonderful counselors.

Greens make others feel at home in their house by putting them at ease immediately. They try to take care of others and they want harmony in every one’s life. Greens make the best of friends because they are jovial, caring and can keep a secret.

In order for Greens to feel good about themselves, they have to be helping someone or something. Nurturers by choice, they are the ones who take care of other people, animals and plants.

The color most associated with life and relaxation, is has been said that a room colored so has an emotionally calming and soothing effect.

 

The Corporate color Blue is so in nowadays

@ BLUE

 

 

Blue is an emotional color. Blue stay inside themselves and do not trust people very much. They watch every move others make. Pale shades of blue show someone who wants everything in order. Their closet is immaculate. As blue moves to the deeper end of color, it becomes more moody and shows it.

People who prefer this color frequently use their emotions to make decisions. They are also easily affected by the moods of those around them. They sometimes expect you to feel down whenever they are. Showing signs of co-dependency, they need you to be by their side experiencing their feelings.

The sky and the sea are mostly empty bodies, reflecting the person’s desire to be freed.

 

No hard feelings but Yellow is one of the color I really dont like , but i guess there is something good about it

@ YELLOW 

 

Yellow are business minded and want others to know they are well educated. They strive to attain success through anything that requires mental abilities.

Making good leaders, they generally make up their mind in a methodical way. Every detail needs to be analyzed before they make a move. Any strategic game peaks their interest. Chess is the game for them.

Yellow may be a little stubborn. When the color moves toward a mustard shade yellow feel that they are the only ones making the right decisions. This tends to make others a little suspicious of their motives.

The true yellow makes wise decisions after considering all points of view. Women would rather be in business, than mothers, but can do both and be quite adept at doing so. When these people are under stress, they feel that they need to hide their emotions. If they show stress, it is a sign of weakness and vulnerability. They try not to let you see them sweat.

Keeping to themselves without inviting many others into their lives, they generally only have one or two good friends. These friends are usually people who are also business minded, although the true yellow depends on no one but themselves. Adoring tailored clothing, they usually dress quite professionally. Although the women may add larger accessories, they dress with a simple flair.

Reflecting the color of the sun, its role of giving light and warmth from above.

 

Pink , what clicks to your mind !!

@ PINK 

 

Pink  want to draw the little smiley faces on everything. Pink are usually either in a blissful state or looking for one. Pink try to see the best in others. If they don’t find something good in a person, then there has to be a very good explanation in the pink’s mind as to why not.

Pink quietly study the best way to approach problems and then take action. Pink see the world through rose colored glasses. The truth of the matter is that it might be nice if we could all put those glasses on now and then. They are shy, very intelligent, hard working people who wish they were more part of the mainstream but are frightened of moving too quickly. Pink watch what they do or say because they are afraid that others may see them in a harsh light. They try to make everyone happy.

 

Talking about likes , I prefer Purple ,

@ PURPLE 

 

Purple is the color of spirituality. Purple are always striving to be better than they consider themselves to be, both on a spiritual, emotional and mental plane.

Needing more knowledge, they become avid readers. Trying to become what they think they should be, they search their own lives and the lives of others to find the answers. The study of religions makes them feel as if they are accomplishing something bigger than themselves in life. A good theological discussion is right up their alley.

Wanting to help as many people as they can, they are more than willing to give you the benefit of their education. Trying to achieve perfection, they seem to struggle with themselves more than most because they tend to be so critical of themselves.

Even if you cannot draw a straight line, you see life as an artist. You’d be defined as an bizarre, sometimes even a solitary.

 

There are great more shades and their meanings and theories , but Anyway please remember all these are correlations, it does not show any causal relationship between your favourite colour and personality. You may have a few favourite colors at the same time, which contradicting each other, for example, yellow vs black. So? It does guide us to understand ourselves better to a certain extent afterall.